Hugging this little dog, well he’s actually kind of big-weighing in at a little over 50lbs.- makes me happy. I don’t do it enough but I really should. I remember reading years ago that hugging your pet can lower your blood pressure and I honestly cannot recommend it enough. Squeeze your pup or kitten or the nearest person you find (that you know) as soon as you can, they might think it’s odd, but who cares. Tell them I sent ya :D
A hug can make a borderline stressful/crappy day seem not as bad and obviously can make your already good day get a lot better. Earlier this week I found myself wishing I could hug a stranger. I didn’t, but wow did I want to. WTH? Yep, it was weird, but at the same time, no, it wasn't. Explanation coming right up:
On a packed train into the city just before 8am, standing wedged between a ton of other commuters attempting to not topple onto the ones closest to me. I tried to get situated, feet planted firmly, somewhat steady and ready for the 12 minute ride. After I put my earphones in, I noticed a woman in her late 40’s, in a suit on her way to work (I assume) is leaning on the seat in front of me, with tears streaming down her face. She’s not sobbing or making any kind of scene, no one else around us even seemed to notice her. She was just standing there, crying. I realized I was staring like a jerk and smiled just in case she noticed, I then quickly looked away as to not embarrass her if she locked eyes with me.
Then I thought Oh WHO CARES. This person is upset, unable to stop herself from crying on a crowded train with tons of people around, something must truly be devastatingly wrong. She then looked up at me, I smiled, she smiled and I tried to say ‘it’s going to be okay’ with just that brief moment of acknowledgement.
The train quickly came to a stop at the next station, and she got out. Obviously I know nothing about her or why she was upset, but at that moment, I would’ve liked to have been able to give her a hug-if only that weren’t such a damn absurd/crazy/strange thing to do. Her day -hopefully without too many more tears- got better.
I don’t have an explanation for my hug a stranger on the bart train debacle except to say it was this random event/thought that nagged at me for the rest of the day. If we are naturally compassionate people by nature, why is it so weird to show it towards strangers? I mean strangers are everywhere; there certainly are a lot more of them out there than there are people we know. We hug our loved ones, friends, pets, colleagues and even acquaintances if it’s been a long time since we’ve seen them. But still, a stranger, (a normal looking person, but still a stranger) clearly needs a hug and NOPE, no hugging.
All of this has led to one pretty obvious conclusion, hugs need to happen more. If by chance you read this silly rambling post about inappropriate hugging, do me a favor and give me one next time I see you.
Romeo and Juliet- clearly very good at hugging.